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Rape culture — how do we address it and end it?

Posted by Philip on 8 June 2016, 1:33 pm in , , , , , ,

Trigger warning: this post contains challenging references to rape and sexual violence.

I was moved by Madeleine Holden's piece in The Spinoff today, about Brock Turner, the 19- (now 20-) year-old Stanford student athlete sentenced to six months imprisonment after, in January last year, he raped an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. It's a passionate bit of writing, angry actually and, rightfully so, Holden asks the question, "What culture raised Turner to become a rapist?"

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Four days into the year of balance

Posted by Philip on 4 January 2015, 11:42 am in , , , , , , , , ,

Venn diagram - freedom & security in overlapping circles, support in the overlapJust a quick reflection on the first days of the year, an affirmation of sorts. I notice I've taken on my reclusive role, usual for this time of year, not having left the house this year yet, other than to sit on the deck to read, drink, socialise, admire the beautiful nature-laden part of Auckland I am blessed to live in, and/or reflect.

It's been a stressless, easy ride into 2015. May it continue.

The only event of note was a slight over-indulgence of leadership juice on 1 January, ending with my falling on the floor. A few years ago I had upper and lower back injuries, leaving me without power in my upper arms/shoulders and no longer able to walk. Unable to lift myself from the floor anymore, particularly after a wine or two, I invested in a Bupa medical alarm half way through last year — it seemed less strenuous than weight training, at which I failed miserably to endure.

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Interactive media manipulation lacks integrity @TheVoteNZ

Posted by Philip on 18 June 2013, 9:00 pm in , , , , ,

Until this week I've enjoyed TV3's interactive debate show, The Vote. It's covered some interesting topics - drugs, racism and tax. They don't claim to be scientific, but it's an entertaining, if not reasonably vague, representation of public opinion.

This week though, I think they've gone too far. "This Month's Debate," shouts the website, "Our kids - The problem’s not poverty, it’s parenting. Do you agree?"

The moot is "poorly" put, as I tweeted, pun intended. It is confusing. "The problem’s not poverty, it’s parenting." Poverty is systemic; parenting is individual.

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The week that was: 15-22 Feb 2013

Posted by Philip on 23 February 2013, 1:27 pm in , , , , , , ,

I haven't felt compelled to blog for a while so I thought I might try a new blogging format for a while and look back on the week in reflection and see what themes and insights emerge. I immediately feel slightly daunted by the task as I take a look at my calendar to jog my memory of the highlights.

Teenage guardianship

The most significant change of the week is that, last Saturday, I became the official guardian of a long-time friend's 14-year old daughter. This is quite an adjustment in both my default living arrangement and "parental" status. I have lived alone for as many years as I can remember and, apart from a few dogs and cats, have never been responsible for any other being but me.

The circumstances are that my friend's daughter, whom I've known since she was born in her parents' living room on Waiheke Island, chose last year to leave Ohakune, where her family has lived for about seven years, in order to attend Western Springs College, which is five minutes walk from where I live. She boarded with others of her Mum's friends last year and visited me each Tuesday after school. This year her boarding situation changed, due to the friends' living arrangements changing, so it was a bit of a no-brainer for her to come and live with me.

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