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Social change: a case of two steps forward, three steps back?

Posted by Philip on 17 January 2014, 2:31 pm in , , , , ,

As part of the Auckland Pride Festival 2014, Rainbow Youth is holding "a Pride Art Auction and Intergenerational Panel." They are calling for art submissions themed around identity, which they say aligns "with the celebration of diverse identities that the Pride Festival focuses on."

Ironically this youth led event is called "Old, New, Borrowed, Blue."

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Well isn't gay just so cool now?

Posted by Philip on 19 August 2013, 12:17 pm in , ,

I’ve never purported to be much of a marriage fan. As NZ celebrates its liberation of gay marriage today, I'm finding it hard not to scoff at the hypocrisy of "middle NZ" deciding "gay" is cool, now that it can be "coupled" (pun intended) with "married".

Suddenly Tourism New Zealand is flying couples across the ditch, radio stations are shouting fabulous gay weddings. All in the hope of getting a bit of media and brand value out of this historic event?

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Of treaties, gay marriage, belonging and other fitting things

Posted by Philip on 6 February 2013, 11:32 am in , , ,

Many years ago I had an inkling that I didn't fit in. Nonetheless, for years after, I kept trying. The disabled community, the Youthline community, the gay community, even the comedian scene (it's not really a community) — in each I tried to find a common thread, a sense of belonging or, as Seth Godin might say, my tribe.

Alas, each time I threw myself with open arms into these groups — whom I thought would surely embrace me and with whom, in return, I would live happily ever after — I emerged feeling disappointed, rejected, irritated or just reluctantly affirmed: I didn't fit in.

Brené Brown has made an important distinction – in her work on shame, vulnerability and wholeheartedness –between fitting in and belonging. Fitting in, she says, is not belonging. Fitting in is changing yourself to be like the people with whom you want to feel a sense of belonging. True belonging, by contrast, is being accepted for who you are, fully and without exception, by that group of people.

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