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Nick Jonas — damned if he does

Posted by Philip on 4 February 2016, 9:59 am in , , , , ,

Nick Jonas of the Jonas Brothers is being accused of 'gay-baiting’ his LGBT fans to further his career by regularly partying in gay bars and performing at a number of Pride events all around America, according to the Gay Times.

The star told Complex:

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Real-ising diversity – why polarity no longer works

Posted by Philip on 5 January 2016, 9:58 am in , , , , , , , , , ,

Update 6 January 2016

According to the NZ Herald, "the woman who says she had her teeth knocked out for speaking Te Reo outside an Auckland karaoke bar has been charged with assault alongside her alleged attacker." A police statement said, "The version of events given by the 46-year-old female is not substantiated by this footage."

A woman was punched in the face and lost five teeth on New Year's Eve, because she spoke Te Reo. She said, "Ka kite ano (see you later)," to friends, then was sworn and shouted at by a man for being "palagi" and speaking Māori. When she challenged him back, he attacked her.

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What loos need to lose

Posted by Philip on 6 March 2015, 5:21 pm in , , , , , , , , , , , ,

My friend Jeannie over at Bikes for Fish posted an article from Huffpost Gay Voices about "bills [that] have been filed in three [US] states to prevent transgender people from using bathrooms consistent with their gender identity." Described as "last gasp attempts to hurt LGBT people", legal acts like this illuminate a more deeply entrenched assumption about dunnies:

That they need to be gender-specific at all.

I'm not your average bloke, but I've always wondered why public toilets are separated by gender. And what's with urinals? We don't have either in private dwellings.

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The sport of coming out

Posted by Philip on 15 July 2014, 6:56 am in , , , , , , , ,

Australian swimmer Ian Thorpe is the latest in a long line of sports "stars" to come out as gay in an interview with celebrity interviewer Sir Michael Parkinson. It seems to be a sport in itself these days: to play professional sport and reveal that you're gay.

Or perhaps a better sport might be to place bets on who will be next. David Beckham? Too good to be true.

But the real question — or the bigger conversation we're not having — is about the "casual homophobia", as Kath and Kim actor and out lesbian comedian Magda Szubanski puts it, in sport that stops people like Thorpe coming out — or never having to "go in" in the first place.

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Social change: a case of two steps forward, three steps back?

Posted by Philip on 17 January 2014, 2:31 pm in , , , , ,

As part of the Auckland Pride Festival 2014, Rainbow Youth is holding "a Pride Art Auction and Intergenerational Panel." They are calling for art submissions themed around identity, which they say aligns "with the celebration of diverse identities that the Pride Festival focuses on."

Ironically this youth led event is called "Old, New, Borrowed, Blue."

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Well isn't gay just so cool now?

Posted by Philip on 19 August 2013, 12:17 pm in , ,

I’ve never purported to be much of a marriage fan. As NZ celebrates its liberation of gay marriage today, I'm finding it hard not to scoff at the hypocrisy of "middle NZ" deciding "gay" is cool, now that it can be "coupled" (pun intended) with "married".

Suddenly Tourism New Zealand is flying couples across the ditch, radio stations are shouting fabulous gay weddings. All in the hope of getting a bit of media and brand value out of this historic event?

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Of treaties, gay marriage, belonging and other fitting things

Posted by Philip on 6 February 2013, 11:32 am in , , ,

Many years ago I had an inkling that I didn't fit in. Nonetheless, for years after, I kept trying. The disabled community, the Youthline community, the gay community, even the comedian scene (it's not really a community) — in each I tried to find a common thread, a sense of belonging or, as Seth Godin might say, my tribe.

Alas, each time I threw myself with open arms into these groups — whom I thought would surely embrace me and with whom, in return, I would live happily ever after — I emerged feeling disappointed, rejected, irritated or just reluctantly affirmed: I didn't fit in.

Brené Brown has made an important distinction – in her work on shame, vulnerability and wholeheartedness –between fitting in and belonging. Fitting in, she says, is not belonging. Fitting in is changing yourself to be like the people with whom you want to feel a sense of belonging. True belonging, by contrast, is being accepted for who you are, fully and without exception, by that group of people.

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I'm not sure about gay red shirts

Posted by Philip on 14 November 2012, 4:46 pm in , , , ,

Today someone told me about Gay Red Shirt Day - it was last Friday 9 November and there's even a page on Facebook. It totally missed my radar and I'm not sure whether to click "Like" or not.

It all grew out of NZ PM John Key's statement on radio that the host's "red shirt looked gay". Gay Red Shirt Day was timed to coincide with Key's birthday.

So here's the thing: I've never found the so-called derogatory use of the word "gay" offensive. I've been known to say things are "gay" myself. 

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NZ gay press perpetuates stereotypes in its own publication?

Posted by Philip on 5 June 2012, 6:26 pm in , , , , , ,

I don't want to sound like a prude but, even though I know I probably will, I'm going to blog this anyway.

The latest edition of express magazine bears the photo below on the cover. To further illustrate it's "gay-owned and operated eateries" feature, an equally teenage boy-esque / soft porn image of a guy with a sausage in his mouth graces page 2.

I'm actually embarrassed to put the magazine on my home office lounge table, which I normally do, because it is so blatantly sexually suggestive. I can't demonstrate my own celebration of diversity because the publisher of New Zealand's only gay rag/mag chooses to continue such an adolescent display of sexual diversity.

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Are we getting used to gay?

Posted by Philip on 23 April 2012, 7:36 am in , , ,

Over the weekend I had an email conversation about how social change can seem to be going backwards sometimes. I blogged about it a while back and there are several models that describe the phenomenon, like 'The Hero's Journey' or 'Monomyth' and 'Panarchy'. 

Seth Godin's book 'The Dip' is food for thought on the subject too, from a different lens.

It's easy to notice the decay in social progress. The six o'clock news revels in it and, in circles of people trying to promote awareness and tolerance, we can easily fall into what's-the-point conversations with our peers, as we use sado-massochistic flagellation to keep ourselves in the struggle.

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