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What we're not saying about porn

Posted by Philip on 10 May 2017, 4:38 pm in , , , , , ,

There's a lot of moral hysteria about pornography — sorry to state the obvious. The panic targets both the industry and its main audience, young men.

 guy watching porn on laptop

Summed up, the industry exploits women and its products create bad sexual attitudes in men towards women. I'm referring to straight porn — I think things are different with gay porn but that's not the point of this post.

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Politicians – leaders or followers?

Posted by Philip on 1 July 2016, 9:33 am in , , , , , , , , , ,

We call our politicians — whether local, regional or national — leaders, but are they really?

Given they are reliant on public support and popularity to be voted in, politicians can't really show true leadership, particularly leading up to elections. They have to listen to the public and represent the majority view if they want a chance in office.

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Dildos, Mickey Mouse, rent-a-protest and that flag

Posted by Philip on 6 February 2016, 11:16 am in , , , , , ,

It's been a troubling week with the signing of the TPPA and the Prime Minister flip-flopping over his attendance at Te Tii Marae at Waitangi. These events weren't troubling in themselves, but his reactions were. John Key called the kawa (protocol) of the marae "Mickey Mouse" and TPPA protestors "rent-a-protest".

Josie Butler, an anti-TPP protester, threw a dildo at Economic Development Minister Steven Joyce, shouting "that's for raping our sovereignty". And then Key was seen wearing a lapel badge of the most popular alternative flag at a formal event.

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Flags, refugees and the bigger question of borders

Posted by Philip on 12 September 2015, 11:14 am in , , , , , ,

It's been frustrating watching both the flag and Hungarian refugee debates play out simultaneously in the media over the past couple of weeks. Separately they are issues that create division over varying opinions but, together, both issues raise a far more complex and, in my opinion, important question:

Why, in a hyper-globalised and -connected world, do we continue to put so much emphasis on the notions of nations and borders?

I really couldn't give a toss about NZ's flag — I don't particularly like the current one but then, I don't like flags in general. I think they are ridiculous symbols of patriarchy and patriotism, created in military or naval contexts, and their use was extended beyond these contexts in the 18th century due to a rise in nationalism.

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Changing direction

Posted by Philip on 6 July 2014, 12:50 pm in , , , , , , , , , ,

As of tomorrow, 7 July, I'll be employed for the first time in twelve years. In early May I applied for the 0.6FTE role of Communications Officer at the NZ AIDS Foundation, was offered, to my surprise, an interview in early June and, to my greater surprise, the job in mid-June.

My surprise was two-fold. Firstly, while I've had heaps of experience in communications I've had no formal training. Secondly, I'm fairly long in the tooth to be taking up an entry-level position. So while I felt confident to fulfil the role, I didn't think I'd fit the role profile.

I obviously did though. And that leads to another aspect of my surprise, which is strongly linked to trust. At the beginning of the year I decided to let myself be guided towards where I was needed. I thought it would come in the form of a new client, but it manifested in a completely unexpected way. Not only a completely different content area, but a different role (employment not consultant) and, actually, a whole different lifestyle (I'll be working at the Foundation's offices).

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My three golden rules of (good) conversation

Posted by Philip on 7 August 2013, 10:27 am in , ,

"So there I was at the party / And everybody seemed to be so well rehearsed / Come the time to play my part I tried / But I couldn't find the page / I stumbled through the scene / And out the door onto the street / And off the stage / Now I'm thinking of Marcel Marceau / Marcel why is it so? / In the problematic art of conversation."
- Leonardo's Bride

We've all had it — the conversation where one person goes on and on and on and you lose the will to live.  You try to get a word in edgeways but they talk louder, or they let you say three words, say, "Yes but..." and carry on with their tirade.

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