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Day of anti-silence

Posted by Philip on 11 June 2015, 6:41 pm in , , , , , , , , , , , ,

12 June is the "Day of Silence", "a day of action in which students across New Zealand vow to take a form of silence to call attention to the silencing effect of homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying, name-calling and harassment in schools."

At Epsom Girls Grammar School, however, 12 June will be a day of anti-silence. Students who are part of DIVINQ – a process targeted at senior students that I co-created with Jeannie Grant, which uses philosophical inquiry to explore the ways our identity is limited by assumptions, labels and fear of difference –will be taking a different tack.

We'll be shouting about bullying all over the school at lunchtime.

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Should kids have to keep themselves safe?

Posted by Philip on 26 June 2014, 2:12 pm in , , , , , , , , , , , ,

On Wednesday Violence Free Waitakere (VFW) launched "'Jade Speaks Up', a new multimedia resource to help keep children safe from violence." The media release said, "The resource aims to help children put safety strategies in place to support themselves, should they feel afraid in their lives whether from bullying, natural disasters, adult threats or witnessing grown-ups fighting."

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Sign the KIDshine petition urging Rt Hon John Key to end our 'national shame’ of domestic violence and child abuse.

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Cyber-bully law perpetuates denial of bullying society

Posted by Philip on 8 April 2013, 3:58 pm in , ,

The Government's proposal to introduce legistation with punishments of fines and even imprisonment to curb cyber-bullies, who use the internet and cellphones to harass others, seems to be yet another of National's typically rash and poorly thought out reactions to its flailing hold on social order.

Has anyone really thought through the practicalities and implications?

How is anyone ever to prove it was actually me who used my mobile phone to send that bullying text and not someone else? Or that someone didn't jump onto my computer when I forgot to log out before I went to lunch and told my Facebook friends and Twitter followers to kill themselves?

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The media: should it reflect or create?

Posted by Philip on 19 September 2012, 7:01 am in , , , ,

It seems to me that the place of traditional media, especially the news, has changed in the last few decades. It used to provide impartial information about what we may have not known. Now it prefers to reflect corporate agendas by providing skewed analysis through dumbed-down entertainment.

To boot, the current roles of broadcast and social media seem confused.

Broadcast media enjoys creating a polarised reality, favouring particularly the dark side (violence etc). It could be much more accurately reflecting the range of negative and positive forces in society.

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Time to think pink

Posted by Philip on 15 May 2012, 11:55 am in ,

Pink Shirt Day is coming up! On May 18th, we will all join together to celebrate our national day of awareness and action around preventing bullying and promoting positive relationships. We are hoping you will spread the word and get people involved this friday. I know you have a big reach and this is a worthy cause. We'd love for you to tell your network and promote Pink Shirt Day.

Pink Shirt Day aims to reduce bullying by celebrating diversity and promoting the development of positive social relationships. An annual event celebrated throughout New Zealand and the world, Pink Shirt Day aims to create a New Zealand where all people feel safe, valued and respected. While Pink Shirt Day is celebrated on only one day per year, we all recognize that the work needed to prevent bulling must continue throughout the year to make a real difference. Pink Shirt Day is about starting conversations and taking action.

The event began in Nova Scotia, Canada, in 2007, when a group of students stood up to defend a classmate who was bullied because he was wearing a pink shirt. The students took a stand by all wearing pink shirts to show solidarity. We’ve been celebrating Pink Shirt Day in New Zealand since 2009.

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Bullying - a retrospective

Posted by Philip on 26 April 2012, 11:48 am in , , , ,

As Pink Shirt Day is less than a month away, on Fri 18th May, I thought I'd put together a retrospective of some of the posts I've written on the subject in the past year or so. Click on the title to see the original post and comments.

Check out the new Pink Shirt Day website and video, too.

Responding to bullying through diversity

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Blame the most reasonable person, even if they're right — coming to a conflict near you!

Posted by Philip on 29 February 2012, 7:00 am in , , ,

You may have noticed a prevalence of a certain behaviour pattern emerging in certain conflict situations. Ok, I'll own it — I've noticed this pattern.

It happens in situations of complex conflict, usually where there are three or more parties and at least one party has a responsibility, legal or moral, to resolve it. Often the issue over which the parties are in conflict is complex. There are shades of grey and mitigating circumstances.

The behaviour pattern is this: The party responsible for resolving the issue makes a choice not to support the person who is in the right. Rather, to make their life easier, the responsible party supports the party they believe will be least reasonable (or most threat) – and usually, the latter is in the wrong.

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Bullying has nothing to do with kids

Posted by Philip on 8 December 2011, 6:44 pm in , , , ,

I'm part of a team working on Pink Shirt Day 2012 and I've just been emailed links to these two wonderful videos by young gay men who have been targets of bullying. The second is a response to the first. Both these young men thought they were unique in their experience; in fact it was common.

As I've said before, they probably have more in common with the young people who were triggered to bully them than they'll ever know, too.

It's important to understand that these guys aren't the problem. Nor are the young people who were triggered to bully them. Schools are not the breeding ground for bullying.

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We're all missing out on a great experience

Posted by Philip on 9 November 2011, 7:05 am in , , , , ,

We are obsessed with function. Doing things. Doing them well, best, perfectly. Winning at what we do.

Our world would be very different if we were obsessed with experience instead. Experience is much more inclusive than function. Anyone can experience anything, through function, presence or imagination.

Research shows our brains don't know the difference, whether we do something, remember doing it, or imagine doing it.

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Wear pink and think

Posted by Philip on 14 April 2011, 7:54 am in , , ,

Bullying stops hereToday is Pink Shirt Day - but it's more than just a day to wear pink and talk about kids being mean to each other because of their sexual preference or gender identity. I think it's a day to reflect on the bullying nature of our society in general.

All of our major institutions use bullying, stand-over and fear tactics to gain power and control over others. We see it in politics, religion, business, media, sport, welfare, social services, education and our justice system.

Let's face it —we live in a bullying world and we deify people who trigger bullying behaviour. 

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