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Posted by Philip on 2 October 2015, 7:32 pm in , , ,

Disabled people: Toughen up, gently

I've been busy the last few weeks so I haven't had time to blog for a while. This is a quickie to keep Google happy and it's a bit of a gripe.

I want disabled people, people with disabilities, impairments, invisible or otherwise, to harden up.

Not in a "don't express your feelings" way but in a "if we're ever going to be accommodated in the world, we've got to stop portraying ourselves publicly as traumatically wounded, emotionally over-dramaticirritatingly inspirational and sensationally triumphant" way.

I've come across the links above over the last few days. I don't want to judge them...but hell, I do. They're not the messages of disability I want to see in 2015 and beyond.

To exemplify what I'd like to see, it's impossible not to be narcissistic by linking to my YouTube channel, but I'll hopefully balance my ego by linking to these TED Talks by Stella Young and Maysoon Zayid.

Everyone in the world has shit to deal with. Disability-flavoured shit is just one.

There's violence, poverty, bad luck, premature death — just a small taster of differently flavoured shit we order — or get ordered — from the "don't go there again if you can help it" menu of life.

If we want to see change in society around disability, we've got to change the stories we tell. We've got to toughen up, stop sharing our stories of woe, and start telling our stories of way to go.

I don't mean we stop sharing our hardships — we all have them and it's important to get support. Talk to your family, friends and counsellors.

BUT STOP SHARING THEM ONLINE AND IN PUBLIC!!

Sorry, was I shouting?

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