Happy New Year! I hope you've enjoyed a break and are feeling the slightly easier energy 2017 seems to have manifested for us.
I went to the movies the other evening. An unusual event — it's always a bit of a lottery so I tend to wait until they turn up on Netflix or Apple TV so if I make a mistake I can stop it and move on. Unfortunately, I lost the lottery with Passengers — one star from me.
I thought I'd be a bit grown up and, rather than ending the year on a rant, celebrate what has actually been a full and rather successful year for me, Diversity New Zealand and our clients.
We began the sixth year of Be. Leadership back in March this year. A talented group of people spent a year of curiosity and inquiry into leadership, accessibility and other social issues. It's been an honour and privilege to spend another year working alongside Lesley Slade and the rest of the Be. Accessible team. I also had the rewarding challenge of working with Lesley and Megan Barclay in leading Be. Accessible while CEO Minnie Baragwanath was on extended sick leave.
It's that time again. I'm taking a few weeks off from 16 December to enjoy the summer.
This break is so important to me. I deliberately stay home, because going away means negotiating an unfamiliar enviroment which is physically taxing. At home I'm able to use minimal energy and maximise the time to relax and rejuvenate.
So we've seen probably one of the quickest voluntary political leadership changes since I don't know when. In NZ? In the world? I don't know. But I'm not aware of another political (or any) leader give a week's notice.
Trust John Key. He's such an arrogant wanker. Only he could say, "I'm bored. I'm over it. I'm off to Hawai'i next week. Sort it."
Yesterday I wrote about my concerns about testifying in court today in relation to a car crash I was involved in this April. As luck would have it, I ended up not having to go to court at all.
The defendant changed his plead to guilty to dangerous driving charges, so the Police didn't need me as a witness.
You may remember I was involved in a car crash back in April. Tomorrow I'm likely to need to go to court to testify against the young man who caused the crash.
To be honest, on one hand I hope I'm not required (the Police said they may have enough witnesses). Courts are such shaming places and the guy was really young — we've all done stupid stuff at his age.
I've been thinking a lot about loneliness lately and, this week, have started talking with others about it. I often feel lonely — yet, as I age, I am more choosey about who I spend time with. As an introvert I enjoy my own company as well so, often, I choose to be alone.
It's a strange conundrum but, as I've talked to friends and colleagues about it, I realise I'm not alone. Loneliness seems to be a thing of our time. Maybe it always has been. And it's not just single people. Those in relationships say they're lonely too.
I don't know about you but, to me, the world doesn't feel very safe at the moment. In fact, it feels pretty bloody scary right now.
Maybe 'safe' isn't the right word — in Be. Leadership, Lesley and I ban a few words and 'safe' is one of them, because you can't develop and change if you need to feel safe all the time. And living in fear is a miserable existence.
It's ironic that a week after Trump gets voted as US president, NZ has another significant earthquake.
This is a quick post, just to make the point that anything you read, hear or watch, saying the world is ok — it's lies.
Conflict — it's easy to avoid. In fact, we often do anything we can to avoid it (well, I do). Often that means not doing anything.
Within the last 24 hours I was involved in a conflict situation with a colleague. I won't go into the detail — it's irrevelent. But the process the two of us went through — an action, a reaction by me that created conflict and then a conversation to come to a resolution — reminded me that, even though it is acutely uncomfortable, when handled constructively, conflict can have truly positive outcome.